22 days to move 500 miles

Around this time two months ago I had my first interview for a new position.

Around this time one month ago I was packing up to move.

And now? I’m 500 miles away from the place I called home for 11 years. Welcome to New Hampshire. Live free or die! (No pressure.)

In a matter of two months almost everything in my life changed and I would be lying if I said it wasn’t nerve-wracking.

63366David and I have been talking about packing up and leaving Virginia since we met. At times we would consider the possibilities of buying a house, settling in, and staying in Virginia for the next 5-10 years. It would mean staying in Virginia longer than we wanted but the stability and the familiarity were appealing.

As our professional lives evolved (see: multiple layoffs) and we hopped from one rental to another before moving in with family (see: broke) it became clear that staying in Virginia was just not an option.

A friend asked me before we left what I would miss about living in the area and I couldn’t say our friends and family. I didn’t have anything to stay. The traffic, the cost of living, the live-to-work mentality, the huge population, the suburban sprawl, these aren’t things I will miss. I didn’t have anything to say except the people. We have an amazing network of people we love and that’s what I knew I would (and do) miss.

Obviously, the longer we’re here the more we have the opportunity to compare this place to where we lived previously. I’ll be honest and say that there are things we realize about the city we’re renting in that make it clear we won’t be this city permanently but we’re also having fun getting to know the surrounding cities. And we’re happier here. It’s not perfect and I never expected it to be. But it fits.

moving-dayI think something shifted for me around my birthday last year. The excitement over the wedding was long gone, my name last name was back to what I wanted, I had changed jobs multiple times due to layoffs, and I celebrated my birthday by shaving my head to fund research for cures to childhood cancers.

There was so much tumult in my life and I spent the morning of my birthday trying to do something to help children struggling with much bigger things than I was. Then I rolled around DC with a shaved head. I kayaked and went out for pizza with my husband and our friend, and later went out for my favorite cuisine (Mexican – real or fake) with family. All day I just felt so simply good and refreshed.

I can’t even count how many times since my birthday I thought “This isn’t where I belong.” If you’ve never felt that feeling – and I don’t mean in a group of people but in your life or in your day – then it’s kind of hard to explain. It’s this feeling in the pit of your stomach telling you something needs to change.

I was ready to go.

So I did.

The interview process for my current job took place entirely via phone and Skype (and writing prompts via email) which was fantastically convenient. When the job offer came I accepted without hesitation. The job was right, I got along well with the team, the offer was great, and I knew I was accepting a job with an intentionally-recognized company. I was excited to move to New England. I was ready and I said “yes.” David and I drove up amidst a snow storm for a whirlwind weekend of apartment hunting in a city that doesn’t offer much in the way of dog-friendly housing. We applied for an apartment and found out we got the place on our drive back up.

newhampshire-stampThere was just over three weeks between the offer and the day we moved. It was barely any time at all although the stress of it made it feel like the move would never come. It’s been almost a month since our move and the time has flown by. We’ve settled in, unpacked most of the boxes, found local hangouts we like, and started trying to find new friends.

This move brought me and David ten steps closer to the life we want. We see each other more, we relax more, we experience more, and we explore more. We’re doing more with our lives and we’re happier here. We miss the hell out of our family and friends (your invitations to visit never expire!) but other than that, it’s pretty easy to see we made the right move.

I lived in Upstate New York for 16 years before my dad moved the family to Virginia. I was so angry with my parents for moving. I didn’t want to leave everything and everyone I knew.

And now, 11 years after that first move I actively chose to leave everything and almost everyone I know again. But this time I’m not angry.

I’m excited.

I’m taking a blog vacation, but I’ll be back soon

Hello lovelies. you may have noticed the blog was pretty quiet last week (you’re so smart). This time of year is always pretty busy for me but even moreso this year. In less than a month time frame there’s my husband’s birthday, my dog’s birthday, my birthday, multiple friend birthdays, Independence day weekend, moving out of our current apartment, and finishing a big deliverable at work.

That being said, I’m staying up to date on sci-fi news, still working to stay healthy, and brainstorming MS Paint masterpieces.

I’ll be back soon, I just need to put the blog on the back burner for part of July.

But I still love you. I promise.


An updated domain

I know what you’re thinking:

“Hey Sabrina, didn’t you JUST leave your self-hosted WordPress site for a free WordPress site like… less than six months ago? Why are you switching back to self hosted? And why did you change the name? Can’t you make up your mind? Stop being weird.”

And okay, yes, this move is happening quite soon after another move but I promise this makes sense. I had an idea for this domain ages ago and I’ve been sitting on it for a while. Every now and then I get emails from GoDaddy reminding me it exists and I go “Oh yea, some day I’ll put something on that catchy domain I have.” and then I don’t. I originally thought maybe David and I could use it somehow but we could just never figure out an idea that worked.

And then I thought HEY it kind of fits me. I should use it for myself. Let’s break it down:

Geek: It’s no secret I’m a total Doctor Who fangirl. I also love Lord of the Rings, Star Trek, reading comic books (that reminds me, still need to pick up Saga Vol. 3), and getting lost in a good sci-fi movie. I’m a professional writer and a self-cassified “word nerd.” I also subscribe to the idea that you can be a geek about pretty much anything. Whatever makes you squeal like a little fangirl and get excited when you’re around someone who understands your obsession.

Granola: This has more than one meaning to me. For one, granola is delicious. It’s also a staple of many healthy diets. I’m a Certified Personal Trainer with a love for living healthy, exercising regularly, and getting outdoors often. Granola is also akin to crunchy – both terms previously used to describe my occasionally earthy, glass-half-full, love the world personality. Also, now I want a granola bar. Damn.

And most importantly:


So welcome to my new internet home. I paid for it so I might as well use it. I’m going to take some time in the coming weeks to update old posts to make the transition as smooth as possible and will probably continue to mess with the look of the site too. I promise not to move for at least another year. And hopefully not for much longer. Not that you care anyway because if you’re reading this you’re probably my mom and I’ll just keep sending you the updating hyperlinks. Love you mom!